How To Dump Your Girlfriend While Minimizing Her Pain

By , December 19, 2014 4:30 am

You may love your girlfriend deeply but feel that the romantic relationship is no longer working out. If this is the case, you don’t want to hurt her just because you want to see other women. Here’s how to dump your girlfriend while minimizing her pain.

The first thing you should ask yourself is whether the break up is going to come as a surprise to her. If you have been fighting a lot lately, she may already know it is coming. If you’ve talked about breaking up in the past, she may be prepared for it.

But if things have been working normally, it may stun her that you are looking in different directions. If this is the case, you may want to prepare her gently. Rather than break it off in one dramatic scene, broach the subject casually a few times before you make a big announcement. Ask her if she ever thinks about dating other guys or whether she is really happy in the relationship. If you want to stay friends, don’t just dump your girlfriend in a way that makes it seem like it has come out of the blue.

You will want to treat her gently. Make sure she knows that she is a very lovable person and that another guy is going to be lucky to get her. Let her know that your wanting to move on is not because of any inadequacy in her but rather in a desire to explore new relationship options for yourself.

Don’t dump your girlfriend in an angry, hateful way. It’s just not worth it. There will be recriminations from such a scenario.

Here are some tips for a clean breakup:
1.) Be clear that you want to terminate the romantic relationship even if you want to stay friends. Don’t leave her with any ambiguity or keep the door open that you want to resume the relationship in the future. While she will be hurting right now, if she knows under no uncertain terms that the relationship is over, she will be able to move on more quickly.
2.) Don’t draw the actual break up out. Instead, say what you need to say and leave.
3.) Break up face to face. Calling her, leaving a note, or just not calling her is the coward’s way to dump your girlfriend. If you are going to break up, at least have the courage to tell her in person.
4.) Break up in public. You are more likely to be able to break up quickly if you do it in public as she is much more likely to cause a scene if you are in a private home. Also, her public scene is more likely to be walking out on your than tears. This actually will allow her to start healing more quickly.
5.) Pick up your stuff. One of the clear signals that you are not really broken up is if your toothbrush is still at her place or she still has your favorite sweat shirt. One way to make a clean break is to exchange all personal property as soon as possible after you dump your girlfriend.
If you love the woman in your life but find that the romantic relationship is no longer a good fit for you, be gentle when you dump your girlfriend.

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