Tips for Dating a Woman with Kids

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By , December 31, 2014 5:46 pm

Dating a woman with kids poses its own challenges. In most relationships, the chemistry is between a man and a woman. When you are dating a woman with kids, the relationship becomes between a man, woman, and child.

First of all, you should know that it is harder for single moms to find dates than it is for women without children. Many men shy away from single moms because they don’t want to deal with the challenges of children. This means that a single mom may be more approachable and eager to date you. That doesn’t mean that she’ll have lots of time for you though. Dating a woman with kids means that you compete for her time, and her kids will always come first.

A single mom will probably be working full time, going to little league practice or ballet lessons, and having a social life besides. Where she fits you into the picture may be limited. For instance, she may want to see you for dinner on Wednesday nights only – because that’s dad’s night with the kids. She may only be available for dates every other Saturday.

You will have to decide together when to get to know her kids. It is bad parenting to bring a succession of men into her kids’ lives. So, despite the fact that her kids are the most important thing in the world to her, you may find yourself being excluded from this realm for six months or more. When you do meet the kids, you have to decide how you will relate to them. They’re not your children, but you will want them on your side. While younger children are easier to impress – just toss a ball or draw with them – older kids have their own activities.

Most children wish that their mom and dad would get back together. They are likely to see you as a threat to this fantasy. In almost all cases, there is at least initial resistance to having you in their mom’s life. You will also have the challenges of authority when you are dating a woman with kids. When you give an instruction to a child, they are likely to say “you’re not my dad.” Think through your response to this challenge carefully ahead of time as it may set the tone for the rest of your relationship with the child.

Another problem with dating a woman with children is that it can get quite expensive. After you have settled into a relationship and you know her kids, dates often become “family” outings. Instead of going for pizza and beer with your girlfriend, you are likely to end up at Chuck E. Cheese’s with the kids in tow. Forget going to an amusement park unless the kids get to come along.

And, sex becomes tricky when you are dating a woman with kids. Some women are reluctant to bring you home for an overnight because of the message that will send to the kids. She is also not likely to want to come over to your place because that involves finding someone to watch the kids.

If she does allow you into her bedroom, you may well be interrupted by children at a key moment. Be prepared for children to invade every aspect of your life. One final note – if you do get involved with a woman’s children and subsequently break up with her, you will almost always lose your relationship with the kids. In this case, you will suffer from double heartbreak. This is not to say that you should avoid dating a woman with kids. Instead, be aware of the challenges – and the possibilities.

Dont Pick Up A Stalker Online

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By , December 29, 2014 10:57 pm

It’s not clear what the cause is, but it seems that more and more people are being stalked these days than ever before. Now, that may just be due to the fact that these days there are more ways to stalk someone than there used to be. This is particularly true with the advent of the internet. It’s almost impossible to hide completely since nearly everyone can be located just by knowing the right key words to plug into any search engine. For most people, you can even find their phone number and address. That’s very scary when you actually think about it.
People are also getting more computer savvy all the time. New hackers tend to pop up on a fairly regular basis. Not all of them are good hackers, but they tend to know just enough to find the information that they want about someone that makes it all that much easier to track them. That means that even if you don’t freely give out your name, address and phone number, that you can still be “found” and stalked.
There are many ways to protect yourself from becoming a victim of stalking even if you’ve been indulging in a bit of online dating. Well, at least in participating on dating websites. A reputable website has built in safeguards to protect their members as much as possible. You don’t have to put any of your truly personal information for public viewing, but, of course, what you decide to tell potential dates is going to be your responsibility. So you’re going to want to be very cautious.
Keep in mind that people can be anything they want online. Just because they tell you that they’re this great person with a wonderful job and all of the things they want to do in life no matter who they may be. Some people will tell you whatever they think you want to hear. So be very careful about how you proceed.
If you decide that you’re interested in another member on the dating site you’re on, start slowly. Exchange a few emails, or several emails, so that you can be sure that you want to take this to another level. You’ll probably want to talk on the phone and if you do that, insist on getting his number and calling him. Then, block your number so he can’t see it. You can also choose to chat via a webcam. As long as your background is pretty generic, this should be pretty safe.
Never give out your personal information until you get to know someone pretty well. If you decide to go on a date with someone, make arrangements to meet in a public place. You may even decide to take along a friend so that he’ll know at least one other person knows who he is and what he looks like in case he turns out to be weird. Don’t put yourself in a compromising position in that you go back to his place or you bring him back to yours. That’s not something that needs to happen in the very beginning.
Even though there are no 100 percent guarantees, if you follow a bit of common sense, you should be relatively safe from picking up a stalker.

Abundance Flourishes In An Atmosphere Of Integrity

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By , December 28, 2014 3:02 am

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There’s no way to fake INTEGRITY. You are either IN INTEGRITY, or you are OUT of INTEGRITY.

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There’s no way to fake INTEGRITY. You are either are IN INTEGRITY offering a PURE positive vibration which the Law of Attraction responds to. Or you’re OUT of INTEGRITY which creates a negative or mixed vibration, which the Law of Attraction cannot ignore.

Here’s a real-life story which demonstrates what happens to our vibration when we are out of INTEGRITY.

I was feeling pretty upbeat after our coaching session yesterday and really excited about winning a prize pack from the radio station.
After picking up my prize, I noticed Spyware, an electronics store, and decided to go in and compare prices with an item I had just bought from Radio Shack yesterday. Spyware had the exact same item on sale for $10.00 less so I bought it with the intention of returning the first item to Radio Shack. When I compared the two products they were exactly the same, with the exact same bar codes and packaging. However, I noticed the cheaper item had one wire a couple centimeters shorter than the more expensive item.

I made a decision to return the item with the shorter wire (the one purchased at Spyware) back to Radio Shack and keep the original item. Thus saving $10.00 but keeping the better product.

After the clerk had finished all the paperwork I felt extremely guilty. But then I rationalized it was too late to do anything about it and told myself I would just have to let this guilt go. What a way to bring my high vibration to a crashing halt. I reminded myself that this is why I shouldn’t do things like this in the first place because not only can I not live with the guilt but now it is a double whammy because I’m so aware of my vibration and this is bringing it way down.

Anytime we do something that is not in alignment with our core values, we feel negative emotions which hinder us from receiving the real desires of our heart.

The antidote is simple: be honest, pay all debts, return what you’ve borrowed, speak kindly about others and keep your word. In other words, do nothing that will hinder the flow of pure positive energy toward you. Be true to your self an you’ll open the way for receiving everything that will make you happy.

This same client had such an opportunity to ‘make it right’ on an energetic level. Again, she wrote:

I was feeling pretty bad when I returned to my office, and then remembered I needed to go to the bank. I went up to the bank machine and there was $40.00 sitting in the slot. Someone had forgotten to take it with them after they finished their transaction. They had also forgotten to take their bank slip. I took both out of the machine and put them in my pocket while I did my own banking.

Now I was dealing with the moral dilemma of what I should do with the found money. I so badly wanted to keep the money as I am heavily in debt with all my credit cards almost maxed out. I tried rationalizing: The bank slip doesn’t have the account number on it so it’s not like one can trace it but it did say that the person had a balance of $195.00 which isn’t very much.

I remembered how I felt when I once left $20.00 in the bank machine myself and went back for it but it was gone.

I then decided to go into the bank and leave the $40.00 with a bank teller. While I was waiting in line, another lady came into the bank and told me I left my card in the bank machine so I went back to get it. Then she came back again saying now I’d left my bank slip in the machine. This is how frazzled I was!

Anyways, I gave the money to a bank teller with my business card and I am feeling much better.

I feel like the Universe gave me an opportunity not only to redeem myself but also an opportunity to change my vibration after something I’ve done in the past that I feel badly about.

Indeed! This client demonstrates the wonderful way the Law of Attraction works: Her dominant intention was to offer a high vibration so that she can attract more money and enjoy her life.

The Law of Attraction arranged an opportunity (the item from Radio Shack.) Her actions in the first opportunity caused her vibration to drop, which didn’t feel good. So she RESET her intention to feel good,and the Law of Attraction sent her another opportunity to take actions that feel better.

Are Marriage Retreats The Way To Stop Your Divorce

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By , December 26, 2014 8:09 am

Marriage retreats are a good way to help give your marriage a tune up, but most people don’t even know they exist. They may be just the thing to give your marriage a tune up, or to help save a foundering marriage.

So what are marriage retreats? Well, it’s basically where you take a weekend or even a week to get away from it all somewhere away from your home, staying with other couples and trained marriage counselors.

While you’re there, you’ll be spending time working intensely on your marriage with your spouse. What this does is give you a chance to get away from all the hustle and bustle of everyday life and get down to the business of your relationship.

This beneficial effect of marriage retreats should not be underestimated. The sad fact is that most people are far too busy to give their relationship the separate attention that it needs. Indeed, most of us only start thinking about our marriage in that way when we are already having problems.

After you are already having problems is probably the worst time to try and fix problems. Emotions are flaring, life is getting in the way, and you will find it very hard to do the work. The best time to solve problems is before the problems ever start happening.

This is where marriage retreats can really help. There are two big benefits to the retreat. One of them is that being away from all the distractions of life can give you a breather, time to think and time to just be together with each other. This alone can help your relationship.

The second benefit is that you’re in a situation where the whole point is to talk about your relationship. This is actually a lot harder to accomplish in real life than it sounds. Most of us are hesitant to have these kinds of discussions, because they can be awkward and painful.

But at marriage retreats, there are counselors and other couples there to speak with, and they will help guide and shelter you. This makes having those conversations easier and it gives you the benefit of having other points of views to help you see what is really going on in your relationship.

If you are already having problems with your relationship, then these marriage retreats can be an excellent way to stop your divorce. The time away from everything can be an excellent way to defuse the emotions that are preventing you from having the breakthrough you need, and having the help of professionals is always going to better than trying to just feel your way through it.

There are any number of varieties of retreats. The Christian retreats are probably the most common, but there are also plenty of retreats that focus on the secular side of things. All you need to do is find the right one for your relationship.

Marriage retreats are one of the best ways to help keep relationship going strong, but they are far from being the only option available to you. You can also find many guides and systems to help keep your marriage going strong.

Is There Hope To Save A Marriage In Trouble

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By , December 24, 2014 1:28 pm

Are you asking, “Is there hope to save a marriage in trouble?” Then the answer is “Yes!”

The truth is that many marriages could have been saved if only the couple involved had taken the right steps, at the right time to make it happen. All too often a marriage hits the rocks and those involved make one or two half-hearted attempts to save the marriage and then they give up. The attempts that they make, though sincere, are never adequate enough to save the marriage.

Following these simple steps are often a great way to begin the journey back to saving your marriage and stop yourself wondering, is there hope to save a marriage.

1)Make sure that you sit down with your spouse and open up to them. Whatever you feel is wrong with your marriage, whatever you feel has brought your marriage to the point where you are asking “is there hope to save a marriage?” then the two of you must sit down together and talk about it.

If the problem has been that you have not been spending enough time together, then you have to come up with some strategies to change that. If the two of you are still in love with each other, then this will not be a difficult thing to make happen.

2)If the problem is that one of you has had an affair, then again the route back to saving the marriage is in talking to each other. Whoever had the affair needs to explain why? It is often said that someone will begin an affair when they are emotionally unfulfilled. Very often it has nothing to do with wanting more sex, it has more to do with an emotional need that is not being fed within the marriage. This emotional need needs to be explored on an individual level and then as a couple.

3)Make sure that you fully appreciate your spouse and show that appreciation. All too often, after couples have broken up, you will hear one or both of them say that “their ex never really appreciated them!”

Show your spouse you appreciate them as regularly as you can. Compliment your spouse on the lovely meal, on how gorgeous or handsome they look! Thank your spouse for running that little errand for you and be sure to tell your spouse that you love them regularly. These might all seem like trivial little things, but it is the day to day, week by week culmination of these ‘little things’ that will help you save your marriage.

If you are still wondering is there hope to save my marriage, then the answer, as said, is undoubtedly yes! Start today! Don’t let this moment pass you by because you might not get another chance!

Article 8 and Conclusion Top 10 Places To Meet Someone New

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By , December 22, 2014 6:02 pm

The Internet

“I turn on my computer. I wait patiently as it connects. I go online. My breath catches in my chest until I hear 3 little words, “You’ve got mail.” I hear nothing, not a sound on the streets of New York. Just the beat of my own heart. I have mail…from you.”
– From the movie “You’ve Got Mail.”

No, I’m not talking about the proliferation of internet dating sites. (though if you are a woman, the odds aren’t bad on those. There’s 7 men for every 1 woman registered on most dating sites.)

Instead, I’m talking about the new kinds of social media opportunities that present themselves these days.

For instance, when you get on Facebook or MySpace, you have an opportunity to find other people within your geographic area who share your interests. When you get actively involved in the community, you’ll start making connections with others – possibly including your next date.

It’s not enough to have a profile. You need to get engaged. Comment on other people’s walls. And, be witty, charming, or otherwise enticing to a member of the opposite sex.

Remember that people who are not currently your friends see your replies to other’s comments, so take action accordingly. Also, try to make friends with people who have large friend networks. This will expose you to the greatest number of new people.

Another avenue that the internet can take you in is through the MeetUp.com website. While it has been around for a while, many people have not even begun to take advantage of it.

In any local area, there are dozens if not hundreds of Meet Up groups. There may be a handful of members or there may be hundreds. Meet Up groups regularly get together. It’s a great place to meet new like minded people.

Conclusion

You are no longer restricted to meeting people at the local bar or through blind dates. When you start to put yourself out there, you can find a new love in a variety of places.

This report attempted to help you think about places to meet people beyond the typical “singles scene.” For instance, 10 years ago there were very few dog parks. 10 years ago, the internet was in its infancy. But these things have come of age.

Take advantage of every opportunity to meet new friends, new dates, and maybe even your new soul mate.

And our final words are from Antoine de Saint-Exupery:

“For true love is inexhaustible; the more you give, the more you have. And if you go to draw at the true fountainhead, the more water you draw, the more abundant is its flow.”

Article 1 Top 10 Places To Meet Someone New

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By , December 20, 2014 11:45 pm

Meet a New Love

I am in love – and, my God, it is the greatest thing that can happen to a man. I tell you, find a woman you can fall in love with. Do it. Let yourself fall in love. If you have not done so already, you are wasting your life.
–D.H. Lawrence

Most men and women stick to one or two ways to meet members of the opposite sex. After a while, you start to meet the same people over and over again.

If you are looking to meet someone new, you need to start looking elsewhere.

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity was “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

So, if you want different results in your love life, you are going to have to stop doing the same things over and over again. But, you may wonder, where do you start?

Well, I’ve compiled a list of 10 great places to meet members of the opposite sex. And no, a bar is not one of them. These are up to date places where you can meet real people. Some of the items are better suited for one gender or the other, but most of them will work for both men and women.

So, without further ado, let’s jump in.

The Dog Park

I think we are drawn to dogs because they are the uninhibited creatures we might be if we weren’t certain we knew better. They fight for honor at the first challenge, make love with no moral restraint, and they do not for all their marvelous instincts appear to know about death. Being such wonderfully uncomplicated beings, they need us to do their worrying.
~George Bird Evans, Troubles with Bird Dogs

Dog parks have been proliferating in recent years. There are many reasons for this. One is that people are living in homes with smaller yards and therefore their dogs cannot get the kind of exercise that a large back yard would provide. The other is the increased regulations regarding leash laws that mean that dog owners cannot let their dogs off a leash. These have made dog owners look for a place where their puppy can run free.

If you go to a dog park at the same time every day, you will get to know the other people who show up then too. Because you are basically spending 30 minutes to an hour just standing around (except for the two minutes you spend picking up the dog poo), you have plenty of time to get to know your fellow dog owners.

You will start by conversing about the various dogs in the park. This is a good starting point. But, soon, you will find other interests as well. It is not unusual for a group of dog owners who frequent the same park at the same time to have an occasional social activity like a pot luck, barbeque, or drinks at a bar. You can suggest to someone that you are interested that the two of you do something together afterwards.

You’ll have something in common with them starting out: you both love dogs. Dog people tend to be social. They also like animals and tend to care about human beings too.

Dogs are also a lot like children. You can find out how a potential spouse would treat your future children by watching how he or she interacts with their dog.

Dog people are also healthier in general. Dogs help to relieve stress. Pet dogs also lower the incidents of various kinds of maladies such as high blood pressure. So, you will have a good chance of meeting up with someone who isn’t crazy or racked by health problems.

There are an equal number of female and male dog owners in the United States which makes going to a dog park an even match for both men and women.

How To Dump Your Girlfriend While Minimizing Her Pain

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By , December 19, 2014 4:30 am

You may love your girlfriend deeply but feel that the romantic relationship is no longer working out. If this is the case, you don’t want to hurt her just because you want to see other women. Here’s how to dump your girlfriend while minimizing her pain.

The first thing you should ask yourself is whether the break up is going to come as a surprise to her. If you have been fighting a lot lately, she may already know it is coming. If you’ve talked about breaking up in the past, she may be prepared for it.

But if things have been working normally, it may stun her that you are looking in different directions. If this is the case, you may want to prepare her gently. Rather than break it off in one dramatic scene, broach the subject casually a few times before you make a big announcement. Ask her if she ever thinks about dating other guys or whether she is really happy in the relationship. If you want to stay friends, don’t just dump your girlfriend in a way that makes it seem like it has come out of the blue.

You will want to treat her gently. Make sure she knows that she is a very lovable person and that another guy is going to be lucky to get her. Let her know that your wanting to move on is not because of any inadequacy in her but rather in a desire to explore new relationship options for yourself.

Don’t dump your girlfriend in an angry, hateful way. It’s just not worth it. There will be recriminations from such a scenario.

Here are some tips for a clean breakup:
1.) Be clear that you want to terminate the romantic relationship even if you want to stay friends. Don’t leave her with any ambiguity or keep the door open that you want to resume the relationship in the future. While she will be hurting right now, if she knows under no uncertain terms that the relationship is over, she will be able to move on more quickly.
2.) Don’t draw the actual break up out. Instead, say what you need to say and leave.
3.) Break up face to face. Calling her, leaving a note, or just not calling her is the coward’s way to dump your girlfriend. If you are going to break up, at least have the courage to tell her in person.
4.) Break up in public. You are more likely to be able to break up quickly if you do it in public as she is much more likely to cause a scene if you are in a private home. Also, her public scene is more likely to be walking out on your than tears. This actually will allow her to start healing more quickly.
5.) Pick up your stuff. One of the clear signals that you are not really broken up is if your toothbrush is still at her place or she still has your favorite sweat shirt. One way to make a clean break is to exchange all personal property as soon as possible after you dump your girlfriend.
If you love the woman in your life but find that the romantic relationship is no longer a good fit for you, be gentle when you dump your girlfriend.

Article 2 In a Series of Articles on Your Pretty Princess Wedding on a Pauper’s Budget

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By , December 17, 2014 9:57 am

It’s YOUR Wedding

The traditional wedding lament of all brides has been “It’s MY wedding,” when mothers, mothers of the bride, and other relations have tried to run the show. This lament has traditionally fallen on deaf ears.

But, if you are paying for more of the wedding yourself or if you are trying to control costs, you have more of a say in how the wedding will unfold.

For instance, if you are trying to keep costs down, the guest list will reflect the people you really want there, not your third cousin’s ex wife’s nephew (unless he really is a close friend of yours.)

You can also keep the wedding costs under control by limiting the number of attendants. Every member of your extended family does not need to be part of the wedding party. You can tell them your budget simply does not allow for this and ask them to sing in a duet or read a poem instead.

If you are planning a wedding on a budget, it also frees you to think through all of the aspects of a wedding. Is the Unity Candle ceremony important to you? If not, ditch it and save $50.

If you are planning a wedding on a budget, insist on having more control over the details. This (hopefully) once in a lifetime experience can be brought in at the cost allocated only if you don’t give in to everyone else’s wishes.

Cut the Crap

In the rest of this report, I’m going to tell you how to get the best deals on numerous parts of the wedding. But before I do that, I want to recommend that you cut the crap.

That is, what parts of the wedding or wedding gear do you NOT really need? There is an entire wedding industry that exists solely to sell you stuff. Brides often feel guilty if they don’t buy it. They think that they might miss a momento 50 years from now if they don’t buy it. But think about the number of moves you’ll make in your lifetime and the current living space you have and ask yourself whether you will actually keep all of those wedding “things.”

For instance, are matching “Bride” and “Groom” Champaign flutes really necessary? Are you going to keep them always and forever? Personalized flutes can cost $80 and up. Do you really want the thing you make a toast with taking up 1 percent of your budget?

Another thing you might want to consider is the markup on anything associated with a wedding. Unity candles can cost $100 in the special wedding section of a store. But, a $12 candle from Target could serve the purpose just as well.

Also, think about all of the clothing that gets sold with “bride” on it. Sure, you want to let the world know that you’re married, but six months from now, are you still going to want to wear sweats that say “bride”? Your identity may be wrapped around getting married right now, but later, those clothes may actually be embarrassing.

Your wedding party does not need all of the “stuff” either. Your best friend is never going to wear that “maid of honor” sweat shirt again. Don’t feel compelled to buy these trivial things that add up to big budget items.

Finally, think about what personalized “swag” is really necessary at a wedding. Do your reception guests really need matchbooks with your names on them? All of those things add to the total bottom line price, and many of them don’t add any real value to the event.

Why Am I Still In Love While My Ex Is Not

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By , December 15, 2014 2:38 pm

Sometimes you will find yourself in a situation where you can say “While I am still in love, my ex does not feel the same way”, and that is surely a horrible situation to find yourself in. How do you go about rekindling love when your ex no longer seems to be interested in making things work? When you approach a situation where you are saying to yourself,

“I am still in love, my ex wants nothing to do with me”, it may be time for you to sit down and take something of an inventory of your relationship, not only in its current state but the last state experienced before the breakup actually occurred. Is there anything that you have the power to change or undo in order to restore better feelings between you and your ex? Now is the ideal time to figure this out for your own self.

“What do I do if while I am still in love, my ex does not want anything to do with me?”

The first thing that you need to do is to figure out why your ex is avoiding you. If tensions are still too high following the breakup, then the clear solution is to back off and give him or her some time to chill. If your ex is avoiding you for a specific reason then it may be more advantageous to figure out why. If you cannot ask your ex specifically, you may want to ask any mutual friends that you have to see if you can score some insights about the current tension and what it is that will restore your ex’s faith in you again.

Here is some practical advice:

When I realized that I was still in love, my ex still did not seem all too keen on rekindling things with me. I figured I had two different routes that I could take: I could give up on the fact that I was still in love, my ex coming out as the winner in the situation, or I could find some way to truly rekindle things, knowing that it would take work but would have much better potential results. So here’s what I did:

* First, without letting on that I was still in love, my ex and I sat down and had a conversation about what “broke down” in the relationship to create the break up in the first place.

* Then I separated myself from my ex for a while so tempers could be calmed and so I could formulate a plan for rekindling things.

* When I felt braver, I re-approached my ex and we started talking about rekindling things again. I was surer of myself and was more obvious about the fact that I was still in love, my ex responded well to my confidence and we ended up rekindling things.

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